Why even the most capable women

still shrink in the moments that matter

And no, lack of confidence is not the real problem

The real barrier is your identity

It is an old identity beneath the surface

One that learned to perform, please or stay small

in order to feel safe, accepted, or connected.

Margareth van Slijpe is a therapist and trauma specialist, with 30 years of experience

and the creator of the Holding Your Ground Method™,

an integrative approach that helps women

shift the deeper patterns beneath pleasing, perfectionism, and self-criticism.

Free Online Workshop Holding Your Ground (90 Min)

June 9 2026
19:30 CET

You are successful.

Capable. Intelligent. Respected.

People rely on you.
You handle complexity.
You get results.

And still, there are moments where you feel yourself shrink.

You soften your truth.
You adjust yourself in subtle ways to keep things smooth.

You say yes while something in you already knows the answer is no.

From the outside, it may look like confidence.

But inside,

it can feel like pressure, tension, and self-doubt.

And the most confusing part?

You know you are capable.

You know you have done hard things.

You know you are not weak.

Why this happens

For many high-achieving women, self-doubt

does not look like insecurity.

It looks like

over-functioning

overthinking

over-explaining.

It looks like staying highly attuned to everyone else

while quietly overriding yourself. It can look:

polished

responsible

emotional Intelligent

But underneath, there may be an old protection pattern.

A way of staying safe.

A way of staying accepted.

A way of staying in control.

And for a long time, that pattern may have served you.

Until it began to cost you

your clarity.

Your ease.

Your voice.

Your ability to fully trust yourself.

The real barrier is not your mindset

Mindset matters.

But mindset alone is not enough when the pattern lives deeper than your thoughts.

Because the moment you shrink is rarely just about the moment itself.

It is about the meaning your system attaches to that moment.

“If I am direct, I might be rejected.”

“If I disappoint someone, I might lose connection.”

“If I stop proving, they might see I am not enough.”

That meaning can become an identity.

The easy one.

The strong one.

The responsible one.

And once an identity feels connected to

safety, belonging, or love,

you cannot simply think your way out of it.

You need to meet the pattern where it actually lives:

in your conscious mind,

in your subconscious identity,

and in your nervous system.

That is where real transformation begins.

Meet your host:

Margareth van Slijpe

For years, I was this woman: driven, successful, and outwardly confident.

But inside, I often felt uncertain, disconnected, and full of self-doubt.

I know what it's like to appear capable on the outside

while quietly questioning myself on the inside.

My own healing journey through therapy

and coaching led me to the work I do today.

I became a therapist, specialized in trauma and

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.

And over the past 30 years I have made it my mission to guide thousands of women through deep personal transformation.

Again and again, I saw the same pattern:

Successful women were not shrinking

because they were weak.

They were shrinking because old protective identities

were still shaping how they spoke, chose, and related.

This is why my approach goes deeper than mindset

I work with the

conscious mind,

subconscious patterns,

and nervous system responses.

Because lasting change does not happen when you simply know better.

It happens when your whole system begins to respond differently.

This became the foundation of the Holding Your Ground Method™:

The Holding Your Ground Method™

helps successful women shift the deeper patterns beneath

pleasing, perfectionism, and self-criticism,

so they can meet life with a calm body, a clear voice, and the quiet pride of knowing they stayed true to themselves.

30 years of guiding women toward deeper self-trust, grounded confidence, and lasting change.

“The perfect combination of warmth and directness.”
"Margareth is the perfect mix of a warm presence and a sharp coach who asks the tough questions to get to the essence. She isn't afraid to hold up a mirror and challenge you, but she always does so with an open heart. She connects on all levels—verbal, emotional, and energetic—getting straight to the core of the issue."
— Anna

“Finally, the underlying feeling has shifted.”
"I had seen many therapists over the years, but I could never quite get rid of that underlying heavy feeling. With Margareth, I felt at ease immediately. She gave me the space to find new insights, and I can finally say I’ve found true peace. I feel lighter, softer, and relieved."
— Maud

“Beyond mindset: A shift in body and soul.”
"Whether you are dealing with 'big' issues or small nagging doubts, this journey clears up so much in both body and mind. I’ve gained a deeper understanding of myself and have practical tools I use daily. Margareth’s warm, positive voice has become my own internal dialogue."
— A.

“A guide for both the beginner and the advanced.”
"No matter how much 'inner work' you’ve already done, sometimes you lose the thread. This approach brings you right back to your core. Step by step, she takes you by the hand through the process. It is the perfect bridge between professional guidance and your own personal pace."
— Daniëlle

"Feel what becomes possible

when you stop abandoning yourself"

In this workshop, you will begin to see what has been running beneath the surface.

It is a guided experience designed to help you recognize the pattern, understand why it has been so hard to change,

and begin feeling what becomes possible when you

stop abandoning yourself in the moments that matter.

You will experience the three shifts of the

Holding Your Ground Method™

SHIFT 1. HALTING THE LIE

We stop the old survival narrative that tells you you are not enough,

and begin dismantling the patterns that keep it in place.

SHIFT 2. HEALING THE IDENTITY

We replace apparent confidence with a deeper foundation of

genuine self-worth, self-trust, and inner stability.

SHIFT 3. HOLDING YOUR GROUND

You learn to remain steady within yourself,

so that inner strength becomes your new natural way of being.

You will not leave hyped.

You will leave recalibrated.

Feel what becomes possible

when you stop abandoning yourself.

Join me for this free online workshop

and begin the shift from self-protection

to grounded confidence,

self-trust

and the ability to hold your ground.

Love to see you there!

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